Comparison is the single most damaging process in human relationships.
If we could cease comparing ourselves with each other, it would solve almost all relationship problems.
Comparison causes brokenness in relationships, brings marriages to an end, propels nations to war, and perpetuates constant bickering and fighting among people.
When the value we place on ourselves is based on who we are in comparison to someone else, conflict or jealousy or competition or depression will arise … every time.
I need to come to the place where I accept the fact that I am a worthwhile human being. I am worth loving. I am somebody. Because I am somebody, I have a unique purpose in life. I don’t have to be defensive about it, nor do I have to be prideful about it.
Dave Grant in his book, The Ultimate Power, stated : “Our self-worth is a GIVEN. What we’ve been working so hard to get, we’ve already got: A SELF WORTH LOVING.”
- Exercise:
Write down one relationship that could be improved by dropping your compulsion to compare.
Make a few notes on what the improved relationship would look like.
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