Risk Relationship Testing
As we prepare to count the costs for what we plan to achieve in life, we must also evaluate our relationships. I refer to this as relationship testing, and there are risks to it.
One of the basic desires of the human being is to be loved. There are certain things that make us feel loved: being accepted by those around us, having them like us, having them approve of us, having the respect us, having them include us in their lives. The value of fulfilling relationships is very important to our balance and happiness in life.
When we begin to count the cost, one of the costs involved is that sometimes our realignment of time causes certain relationships to have less time invested. This is not to say that we abandon healthy, life-giving relationships.
Now a healthy relationship, a true friendship, will not only survive that, but it will thrive on it. A true friend really wants what is best for you.
They will support you, encourage you, uplift you, and they will understand that the time sacrifice is worth the end result of you achieving your dream.
Some friends can be insecure and will not want to sacrifice time with you. These friends will hold too tightly to you.
These friends will attempt to pull you down, whether they even realize it or not.
So, there is some testing of relationships that will have to take place in the course of counting the costs. You and I have to make those tough choices.
Although it is a difficult thing to do, sometimes we have to say good-bye. We have to decide whether or not the dream, goal, purpose, or passion of our life is worth distancing ourselves from relationships that suppress us from becoming all that we are created to be.
- Exercise:
Think carefully about your 5 closest friendships.
Do these friends support your dream?
Is there anyone from whom you need some distance?
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