This topic is particularly applicable if you are a parent and is also valuable when leading or training others. Really, any place in life that you want to have influence or that you are responsible to have influence, the idea of leading by example is key.
It’s been my experience as well as my conclusion from a great deal of study that what we model, what we example to our children, is what they do. How our children relate to the world is very much based on how they view us relating to the world.
I recognize this is not an easy thing. And the thought, “do as I say, not as I do”, seems much easier. It just doesn’t work.
The same goes for any sort of leadership relationship. Although it might be possible for a manager to get his team of people to work while he wastes most of his day on Facebook, the fact is that his team will never be highly effective.
So what steps can we take to make this work for us? We decide what habits we want our kids or our teams to have, and then we begin to demonstrate those things to them.
Now, this isn’t just an “act” for when they are watching. These habits and characteristics must truly become a part of us if we hope to pass them on.
And in that process, we get to help others become the best versions of themselves while also working to become the best versions of ourselves. A win/win, if you ask me!
Exercise:
What is one trait that you are modeling to your kids or someone in your life that you need to change?
What is one trait that you would like to begin practicing instead?
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