Author Archives: Valeri Stefanovitsh

There is deep importance in choosing to be my own best friend. It is because if I am not deliberately working to act as my own best friend, I can easily turn into my own worst enemy. There is a constant interior monologue about ourselves that we listen to. There is one voice that isContinue reading “DAY FIFTY-NINE | Be Your Own Best Friend”

Radicalize Your Habit Patterns Once you have determined that there are places in your life where a preference could be moved to a place of lower priority, then you need to begin to look at your habits. Many experts indicate that most everything we do, we do because of habits. It is important then thatContinue reading “DAY FIFTY-EIGHT | Is it worth it? #4”

Rearrange Your Personal Preferences and Priorities After we reallocate our time and assess our relationships, the next thing we need to look at when we decide whether or not something is worth the price is our personal preferences and priorities. There are places I like to go and people I like to be with, andContinue reading “DAY FIFTY-SEVEN | Is it worth it? #3”

Risk Relationship Testing As we prepare to count the costs for what we plan to achieve in life, we must also evaluate our relationships. I refer to this as relationship testing, and there are risks to it. One of the basic desires of the human being is to be loved. There are certain things thatContinue reading “DAY FIFTY-SIX | Is it worth it? #2”

Time Allotments Am I willing to pay the price? It was a question we asked of ourselves when we first began to set some preliminary goals. For the next four days, we will discuss some deeper questions we can ask and answers we can find when we begin to address the worth of any specificContinue reading “DAY FIFTY-FIVE | Is it worth it? #1”

What do you value in your life? There is a tendency to connect the word “value” with monetary value almost instantaneously. That is not the sort of value that we want to focus our thoughts on today. The values we approach today are better defined as a person’s principles or standards of behavior, or one’sContinue reading “DAY FIFTY-FOUR | Values”

Comparison often goes hand in hand with competition. Competition can be a wonderful tool to accomplish things. When we compete against someone, it can be a healthy dynamic where we are both striving for a goal. However, it can also create a very unhealthy dynamic. When we start to simply want to beat the otherContinue reading “DAY FIFTY-THREE | Competition”

Previously, we discussed my belief that comparison is the single most damaging process in human relationships. We are going to revisit comparison today to unpack a few more thoughts on it because this topic is one that can transform a life or a relationship forever. Comparison is very common in our world. It is aContinue reading “DAY FIFTY-TWO | Comparison Revisited”

The final superhighway to the land of your nightmares is one that the vast majority of people travel. It is part of our culture and it is part of our tendency as humans, and it will remain so until we recognize it and strive for something better. I call this superhighway the “You-Don’t-Say Expressway”. TravelersContinue reading “DAY FIFTY-ONE | Superhighways to the Land of Your Nightmares #6”

I call it the “Poor-Little-Old-Me Turnpike”. On this road, the traveler will buy into the lie that happiness comes to the lucky ones and that he is just not lucky. He will believe that some people just got a better break in life than he did and that it is simply his lot in lifeContinue reading “DAY FIFTY | Superhighways to the Land of Your Nightmares #5”